Showing posts with label Power of Belief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Power of Belief. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

What it takes to Survive -- and Thrive

I'm not addicted to too many things, well . . . not really. But I do like to read my Newsweek magazine each week. I look forward to its arrival in my mail box and I always start at the very back page to read "The Last Word" by either Anna Quindlen or George Will. They see the world through quite different lenses, and I do like to imagine how they came to such divergent conclusions. I exercise my tolerance muscle, or lack thereof, when I disagree.

An article that caught my eye was about what it takes to survive, given the recent airline crash into the Hudson River in New York City. All the points they mention about survival also apply literally and metaphorically to the business world as well. Why do some people walk away from a plane crash or thrive after a job loss, while others seem to fold in and lose themselves?

Here's what really caught my attention since it goes hand in hand with the work I do with aligning your thoughts (and your physiology ) with what it is you really want to happen for your thriving success.

Quoted from Newsweek, February 2, 2009: excerpt from Dr. David Spain, Stanford Medical Center

After two years of research, I discovered that everyone has a crisis personality - a Survivor IQ - that they marshal in a moment of adversity: a mindset and ways of thinking about a situation. The best survivors and thrivers understand that crisis is inevitable, and they anticipate adversity. Understanding that even misfortune gets tired and needs a break, they're able to hold back, identify the right moment and then do what they need to do. Psychologists have a clunky term for this: active passiveness. It means recognizing when to stop and when to go. In a critical sense, doing something can mean doing nothing. Action can be inaction, and embracing this paradox can save your life.


I would like to add that one's deep, inner sense of safety and confidence in the world is a tremendous factor in whether a person can possess any ability to assess when it’s time to do nothing or time to take decisive action. In crisis, only a brain not flooded with panic and fear can make any discernments of clear thought. Unconscious beliefs such as “I’m not safe,” “The world is always out to get me,” “I never get a fair shake” leave one feeling vulnerable at best and absolutely paralyzed or panicky when something critical calls for the best you have.

It’s important to get to know your unconscious beliefs –- you can’t know what you’re dealing with until you get them into the light of the day. Energy Psychology methods can easily help you transform these beliefs into positive, confident ones. It can save your life.
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Friday, January 30, 2009

Believing In Your Success Makes It So

We don't see things as they are. We see things as we are.
-- Anais Nin

I saw the movie "Doubt" a few nights ago and was so moved by this thought-provoking film that I went right home and began journaling. I wrote about the complexity of perception and reality, of what we deem "right and wrong," of moral certitude threatening the reality of the heart and flexible considerations. Did Philip Seymour Hoffman's Father Flynn take advangtage of the vulnerable boy, its first black student, Donald Muller? Or was he taking a special interest to love and guide him amidst the dangerous waters of his situation? Meryl Streep's sister Aloysius rules with the iron-handed assurance of unwavering discipline and installation of fear. She always knows what is right. Was she?

We now know that Belief, yes, what we Believe, actually creates our Reality. Perception is through our own lenses. We have known this for a long time. Anais Nin said it well at the beginning of the writing. Norman Vincent Peale knew what he was talking about in his "The Power of Positive Thinking." Our thinking is Powerful! Now in the 21st century, we actually have the science to back up the knowlege that Belief creates your reality.

I urge you to visit Bruce Lipton's book, "The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter and Miracles," Bruce H. Lipton, 2005. Also please note Dr. Masaru Emoto's work entitled, "The Hidden Messages in Water," Masaru Emoto, 2001 (Japan), 2004 (USA). The scientist in you will be marveling at how our beliefs create literal chemical synaptic changes in our body's functioning. Dr. Emoto shows pictures that display how your belief and emotional attitude toward water( whether loving or hateful) actually changes its crystals from beautiful and symmetrical to ugly and asymmetrically harsh.

Imagine how our own thoughts could shift to create a more supportive, vibrant, powerful, productive, successful reality for ourselves and for those around us. Check out the science of Belief. And if you aren't interested, well just take a look at how things have manifested in your life. Really, how did your success come about? Believing makes it so. In Doubt, we are left not really knowing what is the truth - at least that is what my lenses left me to believe. What do you believe? Whatever it is, it is so.
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Friday, November 7, 2008

Mental Stumbling Blocks for Business- Fear of Success, Part I

Business people have a wide laundry list of stumbling blocks that can handily sabotage their success. Just this week a solo entrepreneur (let's call him Bill) came in to talk about his desire to have greater success in his selling. It did not take long before he stated that his father was not able to provide very well for him and his four siblings. This client was well aware that his own father felt bad about this. Bill thought if he was more successful than his father it would certainly make his 75 year old father feel even more inadequate. Bill said this was a tape that just kept running over and over inside the recesses of his mind. He did not realize, however, how this tape put the brakes on his sales.

Are these blocking beliefs conscious for most people? No. Most people have fears of success that are completely unknown to them. For Bill, being a conscientious, sensitive middle-child son, he would never want to do anything to hurt his father's feelings, or, for that matter, be viewed unfavorably by his father.

We used some creative EFT to release the stuck blocking beliefs and in 20 minutes the many aspects of this block were gone.

This is one of many classic examples of "Fear of Success" themes that keep people unconsciously selling within a lower comfort zone than what they profess to want. Bill knew intellectually that his father was proud of him, but his gut, his non-conscious self, was in conflict about making his father proud and at the same time not feeling he could be more successful than his dad. His blocking belief and emotion made it seem mandatory to "protect" his father and maintain a lower sales comfort zone.

It's essential to ask yourself two important questions:

1. What do I really want for myself? Be specific.

2. What might be keeping me from not wanting to go there?

One good method to begin identifying what's really supporting your sabotage of success is a "stream of consciousness" writing. Set a timer for 10 minutes and write as fast as you can about any and every thought about reasons you would not want to achieve the success you talk about. You'll be amazed at what you uncover! Your list may look like a litany of thoughts that have, in fact, convinced your non-conscious self to make sure you don't succeed. Or at a minimum, these thoughts make success extremely hard work.

In 22 years of working with private clients, it's apparent that getting to the blocking beliefs very quickly is the first key in blasting them out and getting to the results you want. I'll talk about the second key in an upcoming blog. Thanks for listening and talk with you soon!
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